Habitual complaining is all about shrugging off the responsibility to find a solution for the challenges of life. Although it is very much normal to complain sometimes but the tendency to find fault or look for imperfection in almost everyone or the state of things can have an adverse effect on health, profession, relationship and life in general.
As complaining is easier than taking a responsibility to fix a problem so is inculcating the habit of it. You do not need to put in a lot of effort to get engaged in a state of constant complaining. It is very much easy to be critical most of the time over petty matters such as weather, traffic jam, rising inflation, level of pollution, garbage on the street, any particular ideology, certain community, political party or specific country.
Moreover, you can very easily figure out common ground of complaining to start a conversation with someone or seek validation for your critical beliefs. Complaining is as much simple that almost everyone remains negative most of the time over someone or the state of things. And because of that, complaining seems to be normal quality of human beings.
However, the habit of complaining is not going to improve the situations of life, but it makes the matter even worse and it also robes the peace of your mind. If you find yourself complaining about someone or the state of things all the time, you need to make a conscious effort to stop it.
Face Reality As It Is
Life is not always fair but complaining cannot be a solution to any problems. People cannot behave according to your wishes, and situations cannot turn out to match your expectations all the time. To believe that it is only your own perspective of life that is correct and your expectations are genuine can attract frustration in life. The world is governed by their own unique way and being critical about them is all about hampering your own personal growth. That is why, being quick to pass judgment and rushing to complain is a denial of accepting the reality of life. So to stop complaining about someone or the state of things, you need to face the reality as it is, not as you wish it to be.
Learn To See The Positive Side
An untrained mind tends to dwell upon negativity most of the time. It often exaggerates negativity at such an extend that becomes really difficult to figure out the solution for problem. However, the fact is that nothing is permanent in life. Even the conflict and challenges are not going to stay with you forever. As Sun shines brightly after a dark night so is there is a possibility to rise higher after the biggest challenges of life provided you have learned to see the positive side of everything. So if you want to upgrade your lifestyle, you need to stop complaining and learn to see the positive side of everything.
Take Total Responsibility
The behavior of people or the circumstances around you are not in your control, but your response in any particular moment is in your control. It is the quality of your response that sets the tone for your growth in life. If you take total responsibility to fix the problems of your life instead of complaining, you do not only get over the problems but also make it a stepping stone for the success in life. So if you want to make your life happy and successful, you should take total responsibility for it instead of getting engaged in an act of complaining about someone around you and the state of things that are not in your control.
Finally, perfection is not a quality of human being and there cannot be a perfect situation in life. So it is unwise to get engaged in a pointless complaining and denies your responsibility for the growth in life. So if you want to have peace of mind and move forward in life, you do not have another option but to stop complaining about someone or the state of things and take responsibility to improve your lifestyle with positive mentality.